Couples should never argue over text messages simply because things might get complicated. It’s always best to have a face-to-face conversation when discussing important things to make sure that you know the real intention of one another. You will feel the real sincerity of the person if you are personally seeing how they handle themselves during a heated argument. Also, you can easily assess if your partner is telling the truth because sometimes, actions speak louder than words.
Having said that, if you feel like you’re being triggered by your partner, you better calm yourself and try to understand every word in the text to avoid having arguments over text messages. I know this is hard to do most especially if you think that his/her message is seriously below the belt.
Sometimes anger can lead to big mistakes. It will push you to pick your phone up and bang out a very long message to answer back on the text message of your partner. But hang on a moment, my dear because you have to think about your long text twice or thrice before you send it. Arguing over a text message is not a great idea at all! And because we care about you and your relationship, here are the 3 clear reasons why couples should never argue over text messages.
1. Your argument will last even longer.
Arguing over text messages is not the solution to fix your problem. Instead, it will only make the situation even worse.
Harmful and foul words will go back and forth the entire day. Even if his/her intention is to really fix the situation, you will think that he/she is being sarcastic about it. Then another issue will pop up; new tension, and a new story to discuss. Believe me, this will not end. Instead of arriving at the same solution, both of you will arrive with new reasons to fight over and over again.
2. Misinterpretations will not end.
Minus the advantage of body language cues and facial expressions, texting may be misinterpreted. Emotions simply can’t be hauled over text messages, therefore, save yourself on all the possible stress that you may encounter from arguing over text messages. Instead, call your partner and ask him/her if both of you can meet and talk about the issue personally. After all, that’s the best move to consider most especially if you have a clear intention of fixing the issue with your partner. But if you think that the issue is a lot for you to handle, then it’s best to get a relationship coach to help both of you in saving your relationship.
3. Arguing over text messages can lead to breakups.
You will not be able to know the facial reaction of your partner over text, that’s for sure. I mean, there are no other ways or means to know their reaction because texting is obviously not the same as online chatting.
The text that he/she may receive from you could have cut him/her so deep, even if you don’t have any ill intentions about it. And because you don’t have any idea about his/her true reaction to your text message, you will continually send him/her the same kind of texts. I know how good it is to release your anger and pain over text, but always remember that your words can hurt or worst, kill someone. And that someone is the person you loved the most. If you want to save your relationship and avoid breakups, then stop sending hate messages to your partner during a heated conversation. Give yourself a favor and do the talking when he/she is already in front of you.
Regardless of how enticing it might appear to send text your partner about your disappointments and frustrations about him/her, it is better to fix your issues face to face because text messages will not give you a chance to resolve issues. It will ruin your relationship and the worst part of it, you may cause damage to the wholeness of the person that he or she may carry for the rest of his or her life. Be cautious. Be calm. And think twice before sending any text.