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Reasons to Let Go of Your Almost Relationship

By Nica A / October 4, 2021
Let Go of the Relationship That is Not Yours

Should I let go or keep on holding on? The choice is yours. But if loving that person becomes too painful, I think you have to start letting go of that person. Yes, most especially if that someone is not even yours.

It’s crazy to think that there are people who found themselves getting drowned with the question of, “how to let go of him/her?” Where in the first place, he or she is not yours. Some may think that letting go of what is not yours is easier when compared to those who are really into a relationship. But to tell you the truth, it is not.

Your “almost” relationship is what makes the situation even harder to deal with. Why? Because you break your own heart by letting the situation happen. You settled to something you knew that can also come to an end. You thought that the person you love can wait until you have changed the complicated circumstance into a magical one. You thought that you are in control of the things in the world. That he or she is with you throughout the journey. You thought that love and hope are enough to evolve things around you, and make the concept of what you two have shared changed into the reality that both of you are looking to have.

But let me tell you this; letting yourself down will give you a different kind of sting into your heart. You believe that love can make things even better. That love can change your almost relationship into a real, legitimate relationship. But the truth of the matter is that love is not enough.

Love Is Everything, But Love Is Not Enough

Love can change a person. It will bring out the best in you and even lead you to the better path of your life. But sometimes, love can put you into the darkest place of your life. There’s a saying that people can never really change. But sometimes, only love can change people. That’s why I believe that love can literally drive you crazy. However, no matter how magical the feeling of love is, love is not really enough to keep things more intact.

You cannot keep a person by just loving him/her. You cannot fix a problem with love. And the hardest fact to accept is that, no matter what you have done and sacrificed for the sake of love, the person that you are deeply in love with, is not willing to give back the same love simply because both of you don’t see the love the same way. You see rainbows and butterflies, but he or she is not seeing the same thing as yours.

Yes, people have differences. But if love does exist, both of you should face all the downsides of your relationship and be in one to keep things more grounded. But what if love is not being reciprocated at all? Well, then again, I guess it’s about time to let go most especially if that person is never really yours.

Almost Relationships Can Hurt As Much As Real Relationships

Please remind yourself that you’re not being silly or crazy for letting go of someone who’s not yours. Because the truth is, commitment or labels cannot measure or tell you what true love is. When you are in love, it is your heart that makes the decision. And when your heart connects with someone else’s heart, you cannot do something about it. You just let it connect with someone and let things happen. You cannot stop yourself from doing that. There are no rules when it comes to love. So if you find yourself drowning in this kind of relationship, allow yourself to process it.

You can cry out loud and think of all the memories you shared with your almost girlfriend or boyfriend. You may feel bad about it and might even hurt you more. But hey, you have to deal with it to move on, and let go of the person you love who can’t reciprocate the same love as you have with him or her.

It’s unrequited love, and that kind of love is a sign that you should start to let go and let yourself focus on what you truly deserve more. Yes, you deserve better. You deserve more love. You are worthy of it! If your almost relationship cannot give you that, it only means that he or she is not yet ready to take the leap. That is not real after all. That kind of wishy-washy relationship will not progress regardless of how much you have sacrificed.

Nothing will happen if the person you love will not have the strength to deal with that responsibility. It takes two to tango. You cannot just let yourself do all the hard work. You know why? Because when you are in a relationship, both of you should work as a team with the same vision, same goal, and same focus. And if that is not the case, again, it’s time to let go.

Be in a relationship with yourself. The right person will come.

Choose yourself this time. Commit to yourself that you will not let the wrong person enter your life again. Do not let them ruin the true meaning of love, hope, and commitment. Let go of that almost relationship. Forget about that person who is not truly yours, of someone who is not excited to be with you, or of someone who cannot give their heart wholeheartedly.

You deserve the best in life, and of someone who will accept you with no ifs and buts. You need someone who will not give up on you, and who will choose to stick around regardless of how hard your situation might be. You, yes you! You deserve to be with someone who is not afraid of commitment and responsibility. Someone who is not afraid to protect your heart, and who will make you confident, and will not make you feel like you have to choose just because you’re only an option for him or her. You deserve to be happy and don’t let anyone steal your sunshine. You’re kind and I’m pretty sure that the right person will come at the right time. Just wait for it and make your waiting season a time for you to discover your true worth not just as a lover, but as a person with dignity and respect.

4 Exciting Ideas to Spice Up Your Long Distance Relationship

By Nica A / August 13, 2021
Long Distance Relationship

Being in a long distance relationship is truly challenging. It poses many obstacles such as growing apart, trust issues, miscommunication, and sometimes loneliness. While it is true that this setup might not work for a lot of couples, there are also many untold upsides of being into LDR. I know it’s hard to believe and quite surprising, but believe me, long distance could actually be good for you, or maybe for the both of you.

The downsides will always be there but, isn’t much better if we will just focus on the good sides of LDR? Why complicate a situation that’s already complicated, right? Sometimes it’s best to look on the bright side of life, then learn how to make it brighter. One positivity that you can think about is looking for virtual date ideas for long distance relationship. Yup, there’s still beauty being into this kind of relationship.

So what are these LDR date ideas? Well, I don’t want to dwell much on the mushy side of the relationship, but this one will definitely spice up your long distance relationship; maintaining your sex life while in LDR. Sounds fun, right?

Let’s skip the razzle-dazzle part, and go directly with the virtual date ideas for you guys to maintain your sex life.

Tips to Keeps the “Sexual Sparks” in a Long Distance Relationship

  1. Try the Tech Foreplay

While our technology keeps on evolving, I think it’s best if you and your partner will also try to level up your sexual relationship. A little variation will break the weariness in your relationship. So get techy! Try using Teledildonic Toys to sexually stimulate each other.

You can also look for a couples’ app where you and your partner can do flirting and sexting. Sending nudes can also help you to break the ice. Just make sure to use an app where you and your partner can “exclusively” and freely exchange flirty messages. Apps like this can make your sexual relationship more special because you can both call this “your thing”. If you know what I mean. 😉

  1. Dirty Talk

Phone sex is not yet out of the scene! It’s fun and exciting most especially if you are in a long distance relationship. Tell erotic stories or your sexual fantasies with your partner. You can also talk about your past experiences and future sexual plans together to make the encounter a bit more exciting.

Plus, hearing your partner’s voice can be a major turn-on. It gives you more drive to learn how intimate he/she is with you. Admit or not, phone sex will allow you to feel more loved and appreciated because the effort that’s being given is truly not an easy-peasy lemon squeezy.

  1. Mutual Masturbation Session

To be honest, this is very beneficial and healthy in a long distance relationship. Aside from enjoying the sexual intimacy and satisfaction that it will give you, mutual masturbation can also open an opportunity for you to communicate your true feelings for your partner. Yes, it’s also stimulating to communicate your emotions to your partner like sharing how much you love him or her, and that you love him/her beyond physical attraction. But taking this aside, you can also consider watching your favorite porn scenes with your partner to add a little creativity.

  1. Intimately Explore Your Partner’s Body Parts

This is also a huge turn-on, and a great adventure too! You can do this maybe thru Zoom, Skype, and or Google Hangouts. Invite your partner to have a few drinks and start the process by taking off your clothes, in a very teasing way. You can gently touch your lips and run your fingers down to your chest while introducing your sexy parts. I don’t want to get into details, but I’m pretty sure you already have a hunch of it.

Long Distance Relationship and Virtual Dates

Maintaining a sex life while being in a long distance relationship is emotionally challenging. Sometimes you will find yourself exhausted and bummed out of the entire LDR thingy. And to tell you the truth, it’s natural to feel that way because there are times and moments in your life where you will suddenly feel alone; and all you wanna do is just to sit beside your partner and personally/physically share with him or her how you are emotionally connected with them. Let’s be real, it’s not always about sex. That’s why it’s important as well to communicate your feelings and emotions with your S.O. because it gives comfort and security in your relationship. So don’t just focus on sexual intimacy, okay? Always find unique ways to express how much you love your partner to keep your love more intact and your love foundation stronger.

Have you done any of these? If not, start making a plan and surprise your partner!

Tinder 101: 5 Tricks to Get More Matches

Tinder Tricks to Get More Matches

Tinder | Online Dating App

Tinder is one of the most popular online dating apps that are being used by millions of users, worldwide. I’m pretty sure that you are aware of the fact that there are lots of single men and women who are now happily engaged and married just because of this online dating app. It’s hard to believe, but online dating apps can also provide a healthy emotional attachment which is very important to consider if you are really looking for a serious relationship.

While online dating app such as Tinder can be seen as a last resort for others to get into a relationship, many are still considering this as a great avenue for them to get real connections with real people. Yes, not everyone here is looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend. There are a few of them who simply wants to gain new friendship for the sake of meeting new people that might jive with their personalities.

But whatever their reason may be, we can’t deny the mere fact that Tinder and other online dating apps are indeed advantageous in many beautiful ways. Aside from getting an instant date that’s perfectly matched on what you are exactly looking for, these platforms are also helping us to boost our self-confidence, and at the same time, it gives every single men and woman a great amount of hope that it’s not yet too late to find someone who will make you feel special, and treat you “perfect” even if he or she knows that you are not perfect.

Tinder Changing the Dating Culture

Believe it or not, the dating culture has really changed. Although some might think that online dating apps like Tinder are made up to “sell” people in exchange for companionship and satisfaction; we have to give credits as well to the creators of this app for they have given many single people out there a great opportunity to meet new people without any fuss. So the question now is, are you ready to take the challenge and give Tinder a shot? You might not be ready to answer this, for now, but just in case that you will consider this in the future, here are some tricks to get more matches on Tinder.

Rock your bio

The quality of your bio is one of the keys to attracting quality online matches. Your photos are important, but featuring your best assets in your bio can deepen the initial attraction and inspire someone to message you. Don’t miss the chance!

Upload your best picture

Tinder is more about appearances. Well, I guess it’s applicable to many online platforms. But in this case, searchers will look for someone with a beautiful smile, tantalizing eyes, and more! A friendly and warm photograph of yourself could help you increase the chance of finding the right match. But make sure that you will not “manipulate” your photo just to look attractive. Just be yourself and never, ever fake it!

Learn how to start a conversation

There are two people in the conversation, so don’t be one of those who only talk about themselves because it’s a huge turn-off for them. You can ask them about their hobbies, interests, or even their aspirations in life. My advice? Do not overdo it. Just go with the flow, but make sure that you are practicing the “give and take” concept to enjoy each other’s company.

Set up the date after a handful of messages

Once you have established rapport and trust with your Tinder match, it’s time to suggest a date. Just pop the question and ask the other person to meet up for dinner or drinks. Do not use the word “date” when asking. Just use the term “hang out” and see where it goes. It’s better to be safe than sorry. In any case, here are some dating rules to follow.

Be yourself

A first date naturally brings up a mix of nervousness and excitement. But acting as your most authentic self will surely calm you. Another tip is to dress in a way that makes you feel confident and comfortable. But for this matter, make sure that you are wearing something special. Something that you are wearing on special occasions because this will also boost your confidence and self-esteem.

The Trick Part?

Well, there’s no secret in here, but the trick is to love who you are and embrace your imperfection. If you will do that, people will not find it hard to do the same for you. Tinder is indeed helpful, but be careful in giving information about you. Some people in there have the same goal as you, but others are using it for other wicked purposes.

Tips to Get Your Wife in the Mood

By Nica A / April 14, 2021
Tips to Get Your Wife in the Mood

There are millions of ways on how to get your wife in the mood. But today, we will discuss the 5 easy ways to put your wives to bed!

These tips are so easy to do. You don’t need to buy expensive kinds of stuff for your wife. All you have to do is to put in an extra effort and your 100% willingness to set up the mood of your wife. These tips from Bryan Albrandt are the answer to meet your ultimate couple goals!

With his tips, you’ll find out that your acts of service can also be a good love language. This is a total turn-on for women and wives! As you know, women are always in charge of the house chores, kids, cooking, laundry, and more. Sometimes, they also have to deal with their 8-5 jobs, their mean boss, and so forth.

Wives have the busiest lifestyle! And a simple gesture from their husbands is very flattering for women. Plus, it’s a “wow” factor for wives if they are seeing their husbands exerting some effort just to please them.

So, if you are now ready to get your wife in the mood and excited to know the tricks, check out our list below.

Tip #1 to Get Your Wife in the Mood: Take care of the kids let your wife have some alone time.

According to Bryan, this gesture will turn her alone time into “bone” time for you! So the first step that you have to do is to offer your help and let her do her own thing for once. You can tell her that you can take care of the kids and bring them to the park maybe for maybe 2 hours or so and tell her to have her “me” time like going to the spa, eating her favorite snack, or take a nap. I’m sure that this move will instantly get your wife in the mood!

Tip #2: Mop the floor or clean the house.

Offer your help to your wife. Tell her that you will take charge of the cleaning and that you will make sure that she will not need to repeat the cleaning job. This offer is 100% accurate! Don’t forget to try this for your wives!

Tip #3: Make a special breakfast for her or prepare her favorite food to get your wife in the mood.

Do the cooking! Prepare her comfort food and let her enjoy every bit of it. This kind of gesture will definitely put your wife in the mood – super good mood, bro!

Tip #4: Let her know that you understand and see all the things that she’s doing for your family.

Every girl wants to know that you see and feel their sentiments. Let her know that you understand and see all the things that she’s doing for your family and agree with her when she’s venting out. Your wife will find you sexy for this thing!

Tip #5: Let her have some rest and get some sleep to get your wife in good mood.

Rest is for the weak? Nah ah. It’s 100% necessary for your wife! Let her have some rest and get some sleep and once she wakes up, you better get ready for her! If you know what I mean.

There you go! I hope these tips to get your wife in the mood will work for you!

You can also watch Bryan Albrandt’s video to see the whole funny details!

Tips to Avoid a Toxic Relationship

By Nica A / June 30, 2021
Tips to Avoid Toxic Relationship

A toxic relationship is a known problem by couples. Based on the 1995 book Toxic People, defines a toxic relationship as “any relationship [between people who] don’t support each other, where there’s conflict and one seeks to undermine the other, where there’s competition, where there’s disrespect and a lack of cohesiveness.”

Being in a relationship doesn’t directly mean it’s a smooth ride. It is sometimes bumpy or smooth. Few bumps are expected because this makes the relationship stronger. As stated by Chlipala, they determine if you should be together at all. After all, humans are not perfect. Each day, you learn to understand and adapt to their diverse moods and activities. We tend to see beauty and flaws in our significant other. An imperfect person becomes the perfect lover for us. In other words, every good relationship needs work.

However, some relationships have disagreements rather than agreements. Goodnight becomes the slamming of bedroom doors. I love you becomes cursing. These both slowly destroy connections. Daily quarrels with your partner tend to hinder emotional communication. That’s why toxicity outlives the relationship. Without emotional support, the pillar of the relationship tumbles. This becomes the negative force encircling your relationship life. We don’t want that to happen. 

Sharing is very crucial in relationships. It is important to note that talking about emotions with your partner helps to fix your relationship. There is intimacy in knowing someone’s sentiments. Also, there’s no denying that we mostly spend our time on social media. You must have scrolled down to popular posts about relationship goals: couples filling the bed with all sorts of luxurious branded things. You suddenly realize that you are taken for granted based on what you see. Honey, you’re wrong. Love is not about what things you give and take. Real intimacy is simply knowing and understanding your partner’s emotions. It is how you easily know if your partner’s voice is scared or worried. Yes, to speak about feelings needs your emotional courage. Yet,  it’s all worth the risk. 

To understand your partner more, try reading the tips below on how to avoid toxic relationships.

Share Random Feelings Everyday

Give your partner a hint about what you feel that day. Even if it’s ordinary. Tell them “you feel annoyed with your showoff workmate” or “you feel tired from waiting for a ride.” These random emotional statements give your partner a chance to understand how your day goes. In that way, it becomes the start of a meaningful sharing. Daily sharing of simple experiences makes your partner feel comfortable to open up more. In no time, communication within your relationship paves the way to honesty. This is the foundation of your trust.  

Connell Barrett, an executive dating coach, emphasizes the importance of emotional honesty. “Talking about your feelings makes you more self-aware about who you are and what makes you tick, helping you evolve into a better partner and person,” he said.

You know, there’s beauty in randomness. Every experience has an attached emotion.

Put Words to Feelings

Tell your emotions through words. Not unless your partner is a mentalist, then you have no problem. This scenario is only one percent probable, and you just wish you’re the one percent. Every relationship starts with mind-reading games. That might be funny from the start, but it has its own destructive effects. Instead of healing each other, both just mend the surface emotion. Thus, it creates toxic ripple effects on the relationship. It can be romantic to know your partner can guess your random moods already without asking. Guessing is different from understanding.

Let your partner understand what you feel by explaining or describing it to them. Say “I’m ANGRY” when you feel mad towards your lover. Common emotions we have as humans have terms. These are some of them: sad, happy, angry, confused, hurt, scared, embarrassed, etc. These emotions are overused, yet we still need the courage to speak them to others. Take it slowly. Putting words into emotions regularizes tension. Don’t create scenarios without talking.

Embrace Your Real Feelings

Accept what you feel. Toxic relationships hide emotions. Be open to the fact that emotions vary. You don’t need to be happy always when you feel sad. The moment you suppress your real feelings, the more damage it breeds inside. Remember, It’s okay to feel bad. We are destined to experience emotional growth within ourselves. And that’s what makes us human. 

The most important thing is how you manage your negative emotions. Subtle violent reactions are the start of the most serious warning of a toxic relationship. Handling emotions with the help of your partner is essential. Both your mental health should be given mindfulness.

Never Judge Your Partner’s Feelings

Don’t invalidate what they feel. Judging is a relationship destroyer. The moment you directly negate your partner’s emotions will eventually create resentment within themselves. This can lead to the relationship ending or suffering. We all have our own standards, but this is not the reason that we impose them on what they feel. How to avoid toxic relationships is to be compassionate.

The best thing to do is to understand. Put yourself in their shoes. After that, talk to them. Give them the positive and negative impacts of their emotions. Remember, don’t be harsh. Be gentle when talking to a lost soul. By the time you master understanding, you will learn the joy in acceptance and empathy. Let your sound judgment rule your decision in your relationship.

Toxic Relationship, Love, and Maturity

A toxic relationship is stirred by silence. Emotional communication is an armor that keeps connection intact and healthy. In relationships, you don’t mature individually. It is not an innate state that happens as we grow old. It is something we put risk and effort into. Genuine comprehension paves to both maturity in the relationship. Love doesn’t undermine peace and happiness. It strengthens them. If you both want the love you have now, grow together. The best therapy for a wounded soul is a loving heart. And yes, learning how to avoid toxic relationships is a progress.

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